Acknowledge the hurt. Who hurt you and why did they do it? What is the context of the situation, and how long ago did this happen?
Reflect on the impact of hurt and pain. Consider how it has changed you and affected your life. Evaluate the significance before deciding on forgiveness.
Accept the past as unchangeable. Let go of anger. Reflect on forgiveness and make a thoughtful decision.
Determine whether or not you will forgive. This is when the forgiveness process will either begin or end. This decision should not be made lightly, as it will determine the future of your relationship with this person.
Rebuild the connection with the person. Initiate repairing the relationship with kind words, gestures, and acts of kindness.
Discover the meaning of forgiveness for yourself. It brings closure and healing to you, not just the other person.
Choose to forgive, even if silently. Their response doesn't matter. What matters is finding closure and moving forward.