Do not talk at the same time – listen!
This may seem obvious but when emotions are running high, each person wants to get their point across and a subliminal power struggle comes into play signifying that no one is really interested in the conversation or resolution
Think before you speak or you will regret it
“Give me the gift of a listening heart.” – said King Solomon. You may say something that can’t be taken back, ever. If talking in person is just impossible, try written communication but please stay off the internet.
Give a hoot – care
When communicating with your spouse or partner, it is so important to not lose sight that the communication is to make the relationship bond tighter not break up. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
No hitting below the belt
Please watch your language. One of the things that will terminate effective communication is name calling or bringing up something that happened a long time ago. Especially, a situation that was resolved or forgiven.
A general rule among long time married couples is, you can ask about it but if you can’t prove it then you have to let it go. In other words, if there is no proof, don’t bring it to the table
Participate with sincerity and honesty
A conversation is between two people. Silent treatment is not permitted. The opposite of love is not hate but indifference. When your partner is talking to you, talk back without any hidden motives.
One way to communicate is to hear what your partner is not saying. Two people in a relationship get to learn each other fears, goals, values and dreams
Body language is a non-verbal communication technique
Even though body language is a thing to be observed, it speaks loudly. When your spouse is speaking, looking at him or her in the eyes means your partner has your undivided attention.
Be hRespect – agree to disagreeonest
Never lose sight of the fact that you two are on the same team and there is no reason to degrade each other or fight because there will always be another issue down the road.
Witnesses or third party intervention
Many couples seek counseling, a trusted friend or a family member to play a neutral party in an important decision. This is not a bad idea.